Kalari Rasayana – Leave Your World Here

When everyone else was turning Ayurveda into a spa experience, Jose Dominic, MD of CGH Earth, did something radical – he went back to the beginning. Not to sell wellness, but to preserve a science that was five thousand years old. I’m Keralan. I grew up with Ayurveda the way you grow up with a grandmother – you don’t f

ully appreciate her until she’s gone. Mine administered food as medicine and treated every ailment with herbs. I didn’t appreciate any of this until both she and my mother died and part of my heritage died with them.

In 2004 Dominic restored a 200-year-old palace in northern Kerala 7 Kilometres from where I was born and opened it as a proper hospital. Pure Ayurveda: No menus, no negotiation, medicines made on site from their own organic farm and every prescription drawn from the classical Samhita texts. Your doctor decides what you eat, when you sleep, what goes on your skin. In the beginning, no one came. By 2012 the waiting list told a different story, and Kalari Rasayana opened in the south – eight acres of coconut groves along the Paravur backwaters. The Kerala I remember from my childhood – lush greenery, soothing smells and beautiful people.

I needed to do something radical too. A year of holding everyone else together – an elderly parent, a teenager, a partner who hadn’t been well had left my nervous system in pieces. So, I did what made sense: I went back to my roots.

When the staff met me at the entrance with a jasmine garland, chanting a mantra and performing a welcoming fire ceremony, I had a mixture of emotions – firstly embarrassment at being seen. As a middle-aged woman I have the superpower of being invisible, and here was a team of people making that entirely impossible. And then, underneath the embarrassment, something that felt very much like gratitude. Help had finally arrived.

As I crossed the threshold, a wooden sign read: Please Leave Your World Here. I was ready. No qualms about surrendering to the white kurta pyjama to be worn for the duration of the stay, or adhering to the strict regime that I, as a free spirit and committed rule-breaker, would have ordinarily questioned. The white cotton pyjamas are doing something deliberate – making us all the same, stripping back identification with the outside world. None of us are leaving for at least the next fourteen days and will embark upon a cleanse for mind, body and spirit – not for the faint-hearted.

I’m led to see a Vaidya (Doctor) for a full consultation. My ailments are as long as a shopping list, but I pick just one that I’d love to work on – resetting my nervous system. My theory being that if I can address the tech-addicted, chocolate-soothing, crisis-to-crisis-lurching person I have somehow become, the rest might sort itself out.

Dr Firoz Varun leads the medical team and has the kind of calm that makes you want to confess everything, which indeed I do. After an examination and a five-page questionnaire I am told I am a vata-pitta constitution – vata being the energy of movement, air, instability. In imbalance it provokes anxiety, insomnia, dry skin, mental restlessness, difficulty focusing and nervous system chaos. That would be tick, tick, tick all the way and yes double tick at the end. I ask whether the vata imbalance also explains my conviction that chocolate cures everything. He nods and smiles politely and says, “Yes. Sweet cravings, but no desert here.” Adding that my mobile phone is to stay in my room. Given that tech addiction is the first item on my ailment list, this feels pointed. So, we’re not easing into this.

He explains the three-stage detoxification process. The preparatory stage, poorvakarma, preparing the body through massage and drinking increasing amounts of medicated ghee. Followed by purgation (pretty much says what it does on the tin) he either doesn’t go into too much detail on this part or I am concentrating very hard on what he says about the final rejuvenation stage with more massages. I tend to focus on things I like to hear.

I am introduced to Rashina and Anjana, my two massage therapists for the duration. The sun is shining and they walk with me holding an umbrella to shield me from the heat – even this small act of care makes me want to cry. It has been a while since someone held an umbrella up for me. We walk through the organic herb garden passing mango trees, palm trees, the scent of neem taking me straight back to my grandmother, who used neem leaves and twigs as my makeshift toothbrush when I was a child.

By the time I’m in the therapy room I’m trying to hold back tears, momentarily distracted only by the langotti (a cotton thong that really doesn’t cover much) which I have to put on. As I change into it, I walk back to the therapists with my eyes half closed. I’m not used to being visible – especially almost naked. They greet me smiling, sit me down, say a prayer and then I am helped onto the wooden massage bench.

The first treatment is Udwarthanam – medicated powder rubbed vigorously across the body in a synchronised massage. It takes me a while to get into as I cannot quite believe how synchronised four hands can be. The massage lasts about an hour before a shower is prepared and all I have to do is step into it.

The different treatments continue this way with a level of tenderness and care that I soak in for the next fourteen days. I am no longer distracted by the levels of synchronisation and learn to completely relax. Interspersed are Bihar yoga sessions and yoga nidras that I can never stay awake for – it has been a while since I have felt this level of rest.

The food is simple, organic and vegetarian – prescribed specifically for my constitution, one type of fruit at breakfast, herbal warm water always, even in the room. At every meal the finger bowl is brought to me. I literally do not lift a finger. Nothing is required of me.

I will not linger on the four days of medicated ghee – drunk in incrementally increasing amounts each morning, designed to penetrate deep into the cells and pull the toxins out from places you didn’t know toxins lived. Suffice to say all the toxins are then eliminated through a day of purgation. I stay in my room. I stay very close to the toilet. We’ll leave it there.

The rejuvenation came quietly, more like a gradual unveiling than a magician’s “ta-da.” I felt lighter. I could taste every flavour in the food; my sense of smell was heightened. Dr Firoz told me to give it a few weeks or months before I felt the full effects – which is exactly what a person who has just drunk four days of ghee and gone through a day and night of purgation needs to hear.

I had a lump in my throat as I hugged Rashina and Anjana goodbye. They had witnessed my tears, sadness and laughter – my transformation, and to be witnessed as an ‘invisible woman’ is in itself an incredible thing. It truly gives you a superpower – the feeling that there is more, much more, still to come.

A month on, I’m back home and on a Zoom consultation with Dr Firoz, I tell him that I’m sleeping well. No dry skin, no gas, no nervous anticipation of the next crisis – just renewed energy, a sense of self and an excitement at the quiet unfolding of a new chapter…

The chocolate though. Some things are simply beyond the reach of medicated ghee.

Kalari Rasayana, CGH Earth, Paravoor Village, South Kerala. Minimum stay 14 days. www.cghearthayurveda.com

 

 

 

Every year, I go to the Edinburgh Fringe and immerse myself in storytelling, hoping to get better at my craft.
This year’s biggest lesson came from an unexpected source.


In a science lecture room, a Madonna tribute act was singing and dancing her heart out to a largely unenthusiastic crowd.


Behind her, a PowerPoint slide read:
“I am not reinventing myself. I am going through the layers and revealing myself.”
Madonna


I talk a lot about reinvention. I give keynotes on it.
But perhaps reinvention isn’t about becoming someone new.
Maybe it’s about having the courage to reveal more of who you already are.

The singer, kept giving it everything, despite getting very little back. She continued singing her heart out.

And then one person stood up and danced.

That gave someone else permission to join in. And then someone else.

Not everyone will understand what you do. Not everyone will respond.
But the right people will find you. They will take what they need from what you offer, sometimes in ways you may never know.

The work is not to win over the whole room.
It is to keep singing regardless…

In the middle of a keynote, I spotted a man sleeping in the front row. Not nodding off but fully committed and unapologetically asleep.

I spent the rest of that talk trying not to focus on him, which made me focus on him more, ignoring the hundred and fifty people behind him who were very much awake.

I drove home and replayed it the whole way. Then replayed it again for the rest of the week. Dissecting every word. Wondering if I’d ever work again, because that’s what it still feels like when I don’t think I’ve delivered.

Six months later, someone in that audience hired me for one of the biggest storytelling programmes I’ve delivered.

I think about that.

How we fixate on the one sleeping man and miss the room that’s wide awake for us.

The story always lands somewhere. Sometimes, you just don’t always get to see where 💚

I had the privilege of speaking in Parliament alongside remarkable women whose journeys continue to reshape what leadership looks like.

My message: at any point in your journey, you can decide to rewrite your story. You are never finished becoming who you are meant to be.
Telling our stories in such an incredible space is how we make room for new ones to be written 🙏🏽

From Unravelling – My thoughts on patterns in our lives:

Everything in life has a pattern – our own lives are filled with patterns.Patterns give us a feeling of familiarity and safety, even when they are wrong for us.

Perhaps we repeat the patterns we seek to avoid, that somewhere in the universe, there is a trail of past memories that pull us back for resolution.

If only we could step outside of them, observe the sequence and stop repeating them.

Unravelling is my love letter to the wild, wonderful process of unlearning who we were told to be and becoming who we truly are…

Unravelling Shortlisted as Independent Book of the Year!

No blonde alter-ego publicist this time—just me, feeling incredibly proud (for so many reasons) to share that Unravelling has been shortlisted for The UK Selfie Book Awards 2025 for Best Independent Adult Fiction.

📕 I wrote Unravelling to give a voice to the ‘invisible woman’ and made the tough decision to turn down a fourth book deal with HarperCollins to keep that voice authentic. Fear was loud, constantly telling me that Unravelling would never see the light of day without that deal. But I took the leap and jumped anyway.

➡️ To anyone battling self-doubt while chasing a dream or following a gut feel that makes no sense – keep going. Fear is part of the process. Let it whisper, shout, and stomp its procrastinating foot… Just keep going… 🙏✨

👱‍♀️ The last time I was shortlisted for a book award, well it wasn’t me technically, it was my alter-ego publicist who I named Pru, I was secretly hoping not to win because thanking the multiple versions of myself who were a dream to work with would have been tricky…

This time, I will be going as myself! #KeepGoing #SelfieBookAwards2025 #londonbookfair

21 days to launch and behind the glossy photo things have been going wrong. The first advance copies of Unravelling arrived and whilst checking through them, I found a book with the first seven pages missing. You couldn’t make this up…

Twenty-five years ago, having been rejected by every publisher, I embarked upon my first self-publishing venture. On receipt of my first consignment, all 3,000 books had a page missing. It was a big deal as I had lined up press with my feisty blonde alter-ego and people are not really bothered by your logistical problems. If you miss a deadline, you miss a deadline. So, I asked the printer to print me 3,000 copies of page 179 and I ‘Prit-sticked’ them in the middle of the night (long story but I was supposed to be a management consultant, and no one knew of the publishing deal I had given myself).

Fast forward to today, I turned down a fourth book deal with my publisher to self-publish Unravelling. Why you may ask? I asked that question when I see that seven pages are missing from a book, and it takes me right back to that moment of panic and ‘pritstickgate’.

But then, things worked out for me with those 3,000 pages missing. I got to go to the London Book Fair where we caused quite a stir as large publishers were giving out leaflets and we were giving out books. I found my agent at that Fair and I ended up signing a three-book deal with HarperCollins (not necessarily a good thing for me but led to other great things).

So, I go back to my living room currently filled with books and start checking each one and draw upon something I heard from Dr Rao.

He says, “Good thing bad thing, we don’t know,” that it is a question of perspective, and he uses a Sufi parable to illustrate this. It’s so true, I look at some back at some of the ‘good’ things that have happened, and they haven’t necessarily been good and vice-versa.

So, if you currently find yourself in the middle of a ‘problem’, I hope this helps.

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📣 Unravelling is out 27th September 2024. Link to pre-order books with no pages missing

"Your heart is broken, long before it's broken."

"Your heart is broken, long before it's broken." I wanted to explore how emotional wounds begin long before the cause of the actual wounds take place. That, sometimes, we are in anticipation of this pain - the "heart brake" firmly secured as the heart is bracing itself for an inevitable pain. Do we create further pain in anticipation of it?

Unravelling is out 27th September 2024.

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Unravelling is here…

🚀 A double life, a blonde alter-ego, signing a three-book deal, blonde alter-ego being shortlisted as publicist of the year! Turning down a fourth book deal to do this myself as myself. The first copies of Unravelling have arrived.

I am happy 😊 

➡ Sometimes, you are not meant to be in a system. Sometimes, systems are not made for you. That’s okay. There is always another way… 
➡ Keep going... take the first step, the way will find you 🙏 

You can pre-order in all book shops and here 

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I spoke at Amazon yesterday. Sharing my story of rejection, putting on a suit and pretending to go to work, the book deal I gave myself, my blonde alter-ego alias, signing a “real” 3 book deal with HarperCollins, booking a theatre and putting on a one woman show because no one was interested in a show about a 50-something Asian woman (show was later optioned for television), adapting that show into a novel and turning down a fourth book deal to go solo (no blonde alias this time round 💁‍♀️ ).

What I shared is that:

There will always be obstacles but there is always a way and there are different ways of unlocking doors. You just need to persevere and find yours.

Just as I was leaving I came across beautifully painted doors hung on the wall. Apparently, when Jeff Bezos started Amazon because he used to work off a desk-door as there was no money. He certainly found his way from that desk door 🙂

📅 Unravelling is out 27th September, 2024. May you find your door and your way. #Keepgoing